broken heart

How do you heal a broken heart?

A visit to the more humble parts of any North American city reveals countless bodies of all shapes and sizes sitting or lying listlessly in the morning sun or shuffling aimlessly from one perch to another. You are left with an overwhelming sense of pain and suffering. Yes, it is true that many are mentally ill and others are addled by alcohol and drugs, but all are suffering from some form of broken spirit — some type of great distress. (1) 

This lends itself to the question: “How can you heal a broken heart?” There are many aspects to this question. These involve the past, the present, and the future. When we awake at 20 or so, many of us are filled with existential angst. (2) It takes a very long time for some to be comfortable with their gift of consciousness. The esoteric questions are so, so terrifying. Why am I here, what is my mission in life, and where am I going upon the cessation of my mortal existence? 

Soon we see the agony and frustration of the past — the lost loves, the missed opportunities, and the fears that were never resolved or mitigated. These are always analyzed from the perspective of the present — my current circumstances. How do I deal with this? Firstly to begin to repair my being, I must acknowledge that there are no regrets. What has happened, however tragic, is over and done with — it cannot be changed! The situation can perhaps be diminished or improved from a contemporary standpoint, but it cannot be altered. That space in time did occur. Lessons are to be derived from this.  

Then we come to the present herself. I feel, for example, a profound sense of disquiet for where I am. My present condition is not to my liking, not where I want to be. Many suggest that I must embrace the now and feel its energy, nonetheless. (3) The present always exists. Even when it is carried forward 20 years, it will still be today. Whatever my present circumstance, how I react will, potentially, give me hope for the future. I can extrapolate from the moment to events of tomorrow and imagine how they will manifest themselves.  

This relies on my imagination. Our civilization is filled with a sense of fear and foreboding. We are not a hopeful species for the most part. There is a sense of suffering leading to a nonsensical death — whatever that is. William James in his brilliant address, The Will to Believe, (4) postulates that we can choose to believe in a positive future after our demise.  

These then are my suggestions on how to heal a broken heart. You firstly accept that an event has happened — you embrace its lessons, however painful. You secondly acknowledge the present and its reality. And you finally move forward to a positive future. It is to be understood that bad things happen to good people. (4) The one thing I possess, in spite of this, is how I envisage what will come in the ensuing years. Why not plan for a brilliant infinity. All is created by me and my relationship with God. William James leaves us with a thought: Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. 

A closing thought:  It is so very true that I am in control of my emotions. This is, of course, far easier to say than to do. One way to assist in finding a positive direction forward is to realize that I am not unique. Many have suffered like me in similar conditions. If one reads or refers to their life stories, I can find some comfort and understanding there. My relationship with God, Gaia, or the Universe is essential in this regard. (5) 

To sum up:  This week we spoke on suggestions to repair your emotional distress.  

To be noted: From author Shannon L. Alder — When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you. 

Just for fun: 

For reflection:  

This week, on your remarkable walk, please ponder on how you will heal your broken heart. 

Every day look for something magical and beautiful. 

Don’t be a wage slave – critical thinking is great! 

Quote: Brilliance, potentially, is emitted from everyone.  

Footnotes: 

1) Vancouver’s Dark Side – lost souls on East Hastings & entering Chinatown (4k walking tour) 

2) What is an Existential Crisis? 

3) The Power of Now Animated Summary 

4) The Will to Believe by William James

5) Buber In Ten Minutes 

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