We often hear, “Why bother?” Why should I be so concerned about an event, my comportment, or personal efforts? In the end, why should I care about anything? Why not just take each day as it comes — make no plans and have no goals? Reinforcing this view, of course, is the knowledge that history teaches us that plans and prognostications are mostly pointless.
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Nature
We increasingly live in a society that is divorced from nature — from the natural world. This has been growing since the advent of the Industrial Revolution to our present age. The Internet has deepened this void due to its level of imagery and fantastical narrative. Birds, bears, and bees are simply creatures that oscillate on a movie screen; stories of great adventurers attempting to overcome nature are simplistic and distant tales. (1) They are just depictions on celluloid, in animation movies, and have no intrinsic value.
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The new beginning
Today is a beautiful day. The sun is shining brilliantly. It is hard not to be positive and optimistic when we have such a day. The question becomes if the weather were dark and foreboding, would I still feel so contented? The reply, of course, has to be in the affirmative — it has to still be, yes. I cannot be unduly affected by the weather. Each new day summons a new start — a new beginning. Now, many would think that this concept is just naive. Of course, I can be affected by the weather or other external factors. Clearly, it is true that I am exposed to my environment: my job, my family, my age, and my health — to name but a few. This is the nature of life. However, human beings and other creatures have a self-reflective nature. (1) We are, potentially, aware that we are alive and perhaps able to think multiple thoughts at the same time. (2) Reflection is a wonderful gift, but also an odious curse.
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Being extraordinary
I love this word: extra — ordinary! It suggests bigger than what exists, larger than the average. — an opportunity to imagine something greater than endures at present.
In our zeitgeist, unfortunately, the term has become abused — overused, in fact! We are summoned to live exceptional lives or to have astonishing experiences. But, of course, most of us do not exist in these external superlatives. We are, nonetheless, bombarded with images from the Internet. This manipulates many people into living mostly vicarious lives in the blind pursuit of fame, riches, and glory: the capitalistic dream of economic achievement. All this marketing nonsense is simply designed to heighten our consumptive desires. (1) Don’t you want to look wealthy like your favorite, chique billionaire? Then, drive this particular Land Rover, etc., etc.
There is nothing wrong with physical wealth. It is wonderful to be able to live a good life and assist your family and friends. The problem arrives, in my estimation, when we look to extrinsic factors to live astounding lives. You must ask yourself, “Why does a man — usually men — kill himself when he loses all his money? Obviously, his lucre has defined him. Movie stars or people of immense fame also encounter the same kind of denial and anger. (2)
The conflict is not with society, it is with me. I must begin at the beginning when I am 20 years old or so — my first blush with consciousness. After prayer and introspection, I realize that I am distinct from my social identity, I am unique. I am extraordinary just by the fact of being alive. There is no one like me, there never has been, and there never will be. But, I am only a raw diamond, an unfinished tableau, an incomplete novel. Without an effort placed on my growth — spiritual, physical, and psychological — I remain nothing. I continue, perhaps for my lifetime, in an unfulfilled state.
Now to my development: firstly, my notebook is called for. Every single day, I begin to chronicle my special talents, my gifts. Which ones are innate and which ones must be developed? Prayer: have I developed a special relationship with God, Gaia, or the Universe — the maker of all things? Then, after my formal education, my thoughts and beliefs are put into action, again and again, and again. I accept that failure and loss are the necessary stripes of maturity. Without these struggles, success can never be achieved. And then, there it is — Flow. (3) I have arrived at what is extraordinary in me.
After further practice, I can present my contribution to society. It cannot be taken away from me by loss or rejection because it dictates who I am. I have become a person who is truly extraordinary. When Gandhi (4) died he owned six items, including his glasses, yet he changed the way we view peace and he further liberated India. He leaves us with his thoughts: Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.
A closing thought: It is important to draw a distinction between vanity and a true understanding of your attributes. We experience this when we meet people for the first time. The truly powerful do not boast of their accomplishments in the world of business, romance, or life. They are modest and yet all-powerful. The Dalai Lama (5) is a living example of this strength.
To sum up: This week, we spoke about being extraordinary. It is an undeveloped quality in all people.
To be noted: From Benjamin Franklin (6) — After crosses and losses, men grow humbler and wiser.
Just for fun:
For reflection:
This week, on your pensive walk, please reflect on what your extraordinary nature means to you.
Every day look for something magical and beautiful.
Don’t be a wage slave –critical thinking is great!
Quote: I am nothing without effort.
Footnotes:
2) William Holden: The Golden Boy | The Hollywood Collection
What is it like to grow old?
Aging is an oft-discussed topic. On the one hand, society lauds the wisdom of the elderly, and other the other, it vilifies the process. Most of us have a curious relationship with existence and our place in it. What is one to do? When we gain consciousness at 20 or so, we are confronted with the process of time. I will become 30, 40, 50, etc. What will this mean? Each generation has its own approach.
I grew up in a time that praised youth over age. “Don’t trust anyone over 30.” (1) Life is short — enjoy it! I was born in 1956, right at the tail end of the Baby Boomer Generation. (2) Our parents were mostly military veterans or married to military veterans who had endured the Depression and a violent war. Many of the retired soldiers came home altered and not at all happy. That said, there was an overall mood that hard work would make you rich. There was very little time for joy.
The average young person saw their embittered parents and consciously or unconsciously decided to “opt-out” of society before anything got too serious or excessively pernicious. They were going to have as much fun as possible and leave before the ossified nature of old age set in. So, they took their pleasure and attempted to change the world into a kinder gentler place.
This, unfortunately, was not possible because the Vietnam War (3) was creating the same societal trauma that their parents had experienced. In time, the Boomers joined “the establishment” and embraced the movement that accepted getting physically older as a time of pain, suffering, and, ultimately, death. (4)
I propose a different approach to aging. I simply do not identify as ancient. I do not identify as old, or middle-aged, or as young. I further do not identify as white, or black, or yellow, or brown, or combinations therein. Finally, I do not identify as heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, transsexual, or gender fluid. I simply identify as a person — as a human being. This nature is pure and age-less.
Now, it would be naive to claim that my essence is not subject to a mortal life cycle because it is. I will physically die one day. I do believe, however, that God has a bigger purpose for all of us. But, this is not the point. It is how I live, not how I will meet my demise on Earth.
If a person wants to live a purposeful and fulfilling life, it is necessary to dispose of the externally-generated trappings of the self and set about developing the inner “beautiful me” and uncovering my God-given mission. This is not easy and requires a lifetime of introspection and work. So, what is it like to grow old? I don’t know. I am only worried about what is it like to live. As John Lennon (5) cautions us: Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.
A closing thought: One of the biggest conundrums we all face, I believe, is our relationship with the passing years. This is an enormous mystery. All around me, my environment changes. Creatures and other humans are born and they die, and yet I, seemingly, go on. This causes a form of trauma — and eventually, fear — in many people. To avoid this, we adopt a form of escapism that holds up bodily youth as an attempt to stop the vicissitudes of time. This is most certainly not unique to our epoch. The Greeks were fighting the same demons 2,500 years ago. The only answer to a peaceful co-existence with myself has to be in the realization that I am a necessary being and have an important job to fulfill while I am still alive, whatever this may be.
To sum up: This week, we discussed what it is like to grow and what this means to each of us.
To be noted: From Oscar Wilde (6) — Education is an admirable thing, but it is well to remember from time to time that nothing that is worth knowing can be taught.
Just for fun:
For reflection:
This week, on your energetic walk, please feel and enjoy your body.
Every day look for something magical and beautiful.
Don’t be a wage slave – critical thinking is great!
Quote: Well-being is associated with a positive mind. This is true at any age, regardless of your physical condition.
Footnotes:
1) “Don’t Trust Anyone Over the Age of 30”
2) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_boomers
3) The Vietnam War Explained In 25 Minutes | Vietnam War Documentarych?v=7tNTh6KlXXU
What is an education?
This is a complex question to answer. To paraphrase the late, great, Sir Ken Robinson: We live in an age of educational inflation. (1) Everyone, seemingly, has a degree or degrees. This was the promise, wasn’t it? A more educated populace would improve the plight of humanity — a higher level of schooling would construct a more loving and caring society. It hasn’t happened, unfortunately, why not?
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Can I learn from pain and failure — what is the positive response?
By the time we achieve consciousness, at 20 or so, we know that the Buddha is correct — life is suffering! (1) It is filled with pain and disappointment and loss. How then does make sense of life? Tragically, many do not. Here I think of the many millions living on the streets or those barely functioning deluded by drugs, alcohol, and failure. (2)
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What is truth?
This is a big question. For our purposes let us answer this query in an informal as opposed to a philosophically formal way. (1) In my opinion, truth itself can be broken into three broad spheres: objective, subjective, and societal or pragmatic truth.
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Social status
Do you often wonder how we socially position ourselves? I find that most of us, especially when we are young, nurture some form of status to give us a place in the hierarchy of society. Some, of course, are ill-conceived — bordering on amusing. Here, I am thinking of the individuals who constantly boast of their sexual exploits or their money. Usually, when we blatantly state something so intimate, it is probably a concocted lie.
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Do you have patience?
I am naturally not a patient man. Since I was a little boy, I have always been in a hurry — having little understanding for the people and things around me that marched at a more leisurely pace. This attitude lent itself to more than one upsetting event with hurtful words uttered thoughtlessly. I needed a more balanced view of life. At around 30 years of age, it became self-evident that nothing could be gained from a frenetic existence.
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